WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE SHOUT?
What happens when we shout at each other?
A guru and his followers were walking along the River Ganges noticed a man and a woman shouting at each other.
The woman had accidentally dropped her golden necklace while taking a dip in the river and her husband was really angry with her and started shouting at her and she reacted by shouting back.
The guru observing this, stopped and turned towards his followers and asked this a question: “Why do people in anger shout at each other?”
The disciples thought for a while, then one of them said: “When one gets angry, they are frustrated and lose their calm and patience and it is only natural to raise ones voice and shout.”
The guru then replied: “But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you?” The followers discussed and gave their views but none of the answers satisfied the other.
Finally the guru explained:
“When people are upset and argue with another, they must all all cost avoid harsh critical words that will further increase the distance between hearts. Do not say words that distance each other more. For it we do, there will come a day when the distance will be so great that you will not find the path to return.”
“... the tongue is a smouldering fire, and excess of speech a deadly poison. Material fire consumes the body, whereas the fire of the tongue devours both heart and soul. The force of the former lasts but for a time, whilst the effects of the latter endures a century.” - Baha’u’llah